Loss

Loss.. When a relationship is over and a companion or lover leaves, we find our selves in a state of mourning but what are we mourning exactly? Are we mourning the loss of the person or of the situation? I think of course the individual is to be missed but I think that deep down inside what we really miss is the comfort and the intimacy. I am not on about sex if it were even part of the relationship, but the physical companionship the tenderness and affection the person to who u curl up into and snuggle with to watch a movie. The hugs and the kisses, the way your head fits perfectly on there shoulder, the way there kiss finds its way to that place on your neck that makes you melt without actually intending to, the knowing smile and oh the feeling of safety. I feel that when a relationship that has involved whatever level of closeness u have had ends u start to notice your personal space once again. It is said that a persons personal space is 4ft around them and that only lovers and family members tend to be let into that space. I didnt believe this fact but I put it to the test and it seems its right. You dont even let acquaintances stay that close to you after the initial greeting. Why is it that we protect our personal space so much when at times we are just yearning for somebody to step over the boundary? I dont think it matters how long the relationship may have been to have the loss of the closeness. You become accustomed to it near enough instantly. Thats our weakness it natural to want to feel needed and to be shown affection. Thats why when its gone we mourn it. Oh what a hug can do ..

This piece was written with a dear friend in mind but i think we can all relate to it